Friday, March 30, 2012

Worst? I'm sorry I think you meant BEST.

 This list of "Worst" Album Covers has been floating around the facebooks today. It just goes to show you how personal taste is. I think these are BEST BEST BEST!!! What do you think? 

MOM LOVE allthetime

My mom just got her hair cut. She is so PRETTY! Show her some LOVE! Go concon go concon go!

Moms are awesome. Not only on Mother's Day.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Mad Men Sex Kitten. Bisous.

Warning: Explicit themes and sexy talk in this post!

Ever since the Mad Men Season 5 premiere, this scene has been running through my mind.

I find that it is a perfect example of healthy power and D/s (Domination/submission) dynamics that aren't necessarily about leather and chains. It seems that at first Meagan is trying to pick a fight, and Don looks confused. When she takes off her robe in a huff, at first it is hard to gauge whether she really is angry, or if she is trying to mess with his head a little bit.

However he quickly catches on, and the energy of their interaction becomes sexually charged very fast. I think no matter who you are, you can recognize that she is not really talking about 'a messy apartment'. She is playing with him, and he finally has an 'ah-haaa' moment when she gets down on her knees and staring pointedly at him over her shoulder.

"You don't get to have this. You just get to watch." 
"You want it so badly."

She is purposefully acting out, and yet there is that moment of recognition on his part that she is choosing to take it over the top. You can't help but smile at her OTT bratty-bottomness.*

I think it is so powerful that she is the one who initiates this kind of play with Don. As a femme bottom, I feel there are very few examples of women who enjoy being submissive in the bedroom and who clearly feel healthy and happy and fulfilled by this. I rarely see the kind of sexuality I identify with portrayed in a clear consensual light, outside of queer or kinky subcultures.

This moment between Don and Meaghan is a great example of a 24/7 kink dynamic, where the lines between a 'scene' and everyday life become more and more blurry. When I am with someone for a long time and we build up trust together, 'safe words' and negotiation and constant 'checking in' eventually go out the window. I love getting to a point where I know what pushes my partner's buttons, and I know that they can push mine. I love those unspoken moments that are sometimes hard to pinpoint. When I am getting submissive, my voice gets breathy and high. I begin to have trouble making eye contact. My body language changes drastically. When I enjoy being spanked or hit, I lean into my partner. When it starts to become too much sensation, I sometimes flinch or arch my back away. I don't have to tell my partner 'harder, please, too much, not enough'. That is the awesome thing about belonging to someone. You learn their body language, you learn when to push them, when to back down.

When I trust someone and we engage in power play, I often can't wipe off a huge Cheshire grin off my face.

Being 24/7 means that we can pick up the thread of D/s anywhere at anytime. I know that if my partner puts their hand on the back of my neck forcefully, and I lower my eyes, for us, that is the equivalent of a negotiation. We are both in tune to each other.

For me, our power dynamics don't begin and end in the bedroom, they seep into all our interactions. I try to honor them on a daily basis. We do this when my partner orders my meal for me in a restaurant, or I make the bed perfect before they come home from work. From the outside looking in, this isn't what comes to mind when people think of S/M. Us kinky folk, we know how to spot it.

That Cheshire grin that Meaghan flashes at the very end of the episode, when she walks into the office on Don's arm? Oh goodness, I felt so much kinship and femme bottom recognition. Get it girl!

That petite sex kitten wants a collar.

*What so many people often seem to misunderstand about the difference between consensual kink and assault. While rough play make look from the outside to be very similar to assault or rape, the difference in the emotions are night and day. When I trust someone and we engage in power play, I often can't wipe off a huge Cheshire grin off my face. When I have been in situations where I felt pressured or assaulted, I felt like my chest was being ripped into pieces. My body language, my voice, everything is steady and calm and deliberate when I am in a happy, healthy, kinky relationship. I don't want to give the impression that I feel like kinky folk should always have to defend our sexuality in this way. I just want to acknowledge that the difference between consensual kink and sexual assault is a big misunderstanding that can be a stumbling block in mainstream discussions of BDSM.

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Nail Game: Teal Soiree. Metallic Teal with Glitter Tips Manicure.

Start with three coats of Aldo Nailpolish in Royal Mint. Let Dry. Paint the tips with some swipes of Art Club Nail Art Laquer in NA25 Hologram (got it at duane reade).
Finally fill in the tips with Deborah Lippman in Happy Birthday.

Get your spring sprung and your nail game on!

Needs to be cleaned up a bit, but Voila! Teal Soiree!

Hair thoughts... to Femme Mullet or not to Femme Mullet.

This is a Femme Mullet. Now that I cut off the dyed pink tips I had, I am itching for some edge to my hairstyle. Also it's getting to be summer, and for some reason I always want to shave/cut my hair in summertime.
Awesome Fringe earrings and Hair Styles
  So I am conflicted. I have had long hair for a while now, but I have done crazy things in the past like shave my entire head. On the one hand, this would be a bitch to grow out, on the other hand, it is pretty ferosh. Thoughts? Comments? Advice?

Here is my hair right now, in it's natural thick wavy state and straight. When curly it is right at my shoulders, when straight it is a good 2 or 3 inches longer. 

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Etsy Seller Profile: Sonya Denise Freeman of 16 Stone Vintage

Sonya of 16 Stone Vintage was kind enough to talk with me about style, vintage and her etsy shop! 
16 Stone Vintage has big chain necklaces, polka dot pin up dresses, 80's looks, punk style, and a great collection of 1970's sunglasses. Sonya (along with her model/muse Bilen Gaga) also writes a fabulous blog with  fierce style. She hails from Bed Stuy, and this lady is one to watch.  
(I'm in Bed Stuy too, Sonya lets hit up the local Goodwill sometime!) 
Sonya, rocking orange tights with her Vintage treasures!
Nora: Tell me about your shop? What do you carry? Who is involved? Why did you start?

Vintage 1970's Sunglasses
Sonya: My shop 16 Stone Vintage is actually mostly inspired by my father's wardrobe growing up. He took a lot of fashion risks and had a wide variety of clothing. He loved the 1970's era and he also wore lots of bright clothing. I carry vintage clothing, accessories, and housewares. I started 16 Stone Vintage because I would find amazing vintage items that was not my size or necessarily my personal style. I thought even if they weren't for me, I would still share them with the world.  
1980's Colorful Party Dress
Nora: What do you love the most about Vintage clothing?
Sonya: What I love most about vintage clothing is that most items are rare and one of a kind. I also feel it's important to reuse and recycle, so wearing and selling vintage is in line with my beliefs of reducing waste by using what's already here. 
Nora: Who/What are your biggest style influences?
Sonya: Currently, my biggest style influence comes from the covers of old Jet Magazine covers. I dream about looking like all those different models, singers, and actresses from the 1950's and 1960's. Gorgeous gowns, swimsuits, and hats. There's no limit to fashion on these covers and the inside of the magazines as well.   If you wanna see a collage of some of these images, 'Like' Sonya on her facebook page:
Perfect Styling.

Polka Dot Bow Kitten Heels

Nora: Tell us about your best vintage find.
Sonya: This is a tie... I went in a Salvation Arny and saw this 2 stunning round disc necklaces. The employee was sorting them from a big mess of tangled jewelry. Low and behold once of them was singed Fendi and the other signed YSL. Thanks to whoever let those slip through the cracks!  They both sold on etsy, but I kind of regret selling the YSL one. I sometimes long to have it back. Take a look at the pieces here: and

Nora: Anything else you would like readers to know about your shop, you, your process?
Love this. Incredible floral coat with hot pink lips!
Sonya: Well, my process of picking items for 16 Stone Vintage is very meticulous. I often fly out to Chicago to dig through my favorites 3 thrifts in the world for gems. I also utilize ebay roving through pages of goods and sometimes finding goodies as well.  I put in a lot of time  making sure I select quality, stylish, and authentic items for my shop. I love to hunt for my customers and share my treasures. A little tid bit about me is that I am a print model and part time actress. Sometimes I buy vintage clothing and accessories for movies and tv shows. So that also plays a part as to why I'm always hunting for vintage items as well. 
All photos used with permission, copyright Sonya Denise Freeman
To keep up with Sonya, follow her blog at

Saturday, March 24, 2012

flowers and things

(adorable medicine cabinet organization. pintrest)

(floral nails! Photo Credit: The beauty department)

Lego street art!!!
(photo credit flora grubb)

Friday, March 23, 2012

RYE RYE! Summer jamz!!! AMAZING fashionz!!!

Rye Rye and ROBYN! Perfect musical combo. Both these ladies make me wanna shave my head. =) soooo gaaaay.

One more. Prabal Gurang??? High fashion + hip hop = this...